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Why Couples Argue and How To Avoid It

The big take away: The desire to be right is one of the most toxic issues that cause marriage difficulties, send couples to counseling, cause arguments, and problems in relationships. When couples ask, "why do we fight?" this is often the answer. This is how to stop...

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The Five Love Languages

The big take away: One of the most common communication problems couples have, that causes all sorts of arguments and misunderstandings, isn't actually a problem at all...

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Healing From Shame: How To Build Confidence In Yourself

In this interview with my good friend Patrycia Slawuta (Pati), we talk about the roots of true confidence and some simple, powerful tips for dealing with the shame that prevents us from feeling confidence. Pati is currently doing her doctoral thesis on the subject of shame,...

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My Dad

My father died earlier this year, and today is his birthday. In his honor, today's post is about fathers, a quick tip on how to easily and radically improve your relationship to your father, and a little story about my dad (that has some universal truth...

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Why Beautiful Women Are Stupid

Yes, it's true, a HUGE number of men believe this (and frankly, so do a huge number of women). If a woman is beautiful, chances are, she's not too bright. Sure, sure, there are exceptions, but most very beautiful women MUST be stupid...

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Love and Freedom

Every now and again you learn something so important, yet so simple, that it changes your entire life. This post could be one of them. Learning the lesson in this video is simple and perhaps to some, even obvious...

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Why Men Secretly Hate Women

In the aftermath of the Santa Barbara shootings, the topic of misogyny came back into the media with a backlash, a counter-punch, and a lot of arguments. The reason everyone is arguing so much is that humans like to have clean answers: Are men walking around with...

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Swinging/Polyamory/Monogamy & Committed Relationships

"Polyamory" is a big topic these days. Monogamy, once the gold standard of a loving relationship, is now being examined, tested, questioned, and re-evaluated. If you live in San Francisco, the leading edge of the polyamory culture (no surprise there!), you know that you can't even go...

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Easy Love

I'm going to tell you exactly how to make love "work" without work. I'm going to tell you how to have the blissed-out, star-spangled, sex-drenched, breathlessly beautiful love affair that most adults get cynical about by the time they get to their late 20s. I'm getting...

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